Why You Shouldn’t Use Generative AI In Spirit Communication

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Generative AI and AI has truly changed the world. But how useful is it in the paranormal? Is using generative AI in spirit communication even possible? Let’s take a deep dive and find out.

In my day job, I work as a learning experience designer and I work for one of the leading cloud computing companies. This means I have extensive familiarity with the various AI platforms, companies, and tools in the market. My experience gives me unique insight into how generative AI operates, as well as its benefits and limitations.

My technical knowledge, combined with my experience in the paranormal field, informs my perspective on why these tools should be approached with caution when applied beyond data review and investigation. While these AI systems can offer amazing capabilities for processing and analyzing large amounts of data, using them in contexts like spirit communication raises important concerns.

How AI Functions

When it comes to using generative AI for spirit communication, several issues arise, particularly because of how AI functions. One of the primary issues is that AI models are trained on vast datasets of human-created content, meaning they inherently reflect biases.

Since we have yet to establish a baseline definition of what a spirit is, how it communicates, or what constitutes a genuine spirit voice, it becomes nearly impossible to train AI to accurately identify or interact with spirits. AI needs something tangible to create an accurate output, and without a concrete framework, it’s left to generate responses based on human patterns and expectations, which may not reflect paranormal reality. This can skew results and lead investigators to believe they are receiving meaningful responses when, in fact, they are not.

This makes it likely that an AI will misunderstand or misrepresent spiritual communication, as it is designed to generate plausible human-like responses based on existing data rather than interpreting actual paranormal phenomena. Because of this, responses generated by AI are influenced by language patterns and expectations set by human interaction, which can skew results and lead investigators to believe they are receiving meaningful responses when, in fact, they are not.

The Problem of AI Outputs

Another significant issue is the ambiguity and interpretability of AI outputs. Generative AI lacks the ability to discern between authentic spiritual communication and random noise, human input, or algorithmic content. It may produce text that sounds coherent and convincing, but it is simply an automated response created from patterns. This opens up the potential for investigators to be misled or to attribute significance to something purely generated by the AI without any connection to the paranormal. Since AI can fabricate content, distinguishing between genuine spiritual experiences and machine-generated material becomes increasingly difficult.

Ethical Concerns

Ethical concerns also arise when using AI in spirit communication. There’s a risk that the process could trivialize or disrespect both spirits and investigators. AI-generated responses could create a false sense of communication. This may be harmful, especially to those seeking closure, comfort, or understanding through spiritual means. Relying on AI in these cases can lead to unintended consequences. This includes deep emotional harm for those who believe they are receiving messages from the other side.

Moreover, using AI for spirit communication could lead to a loss of the human element. The human element is often central to the investigation process. Paranormal investigations are subjective experiences that rely on human intuition, empathy, and personal connection. AI lacks the emotional and intuitive capacity to engage meaningfully with spirits. This means it cannot replicate the personal interactions that are often key to understanding or communicating with the paranormal.

Stolen Content

On top of these concerns, the ethical implications of AI and Generative AI extend beyond spirit communication. The technology itself raises serious issues. This is because it is built on the wholesale theft of material—writing, art, and more—in blatant violation of copyright law. The datasets used to train these AI models often include copyrighted works without permission, which not only harms creators but also degrades the credibility of the outputs. The reliance on stolen content compromises the legitimacy of any conclusions drawn from AI-generated material, effectively poisoning the well for anything that could be considered remotely credible. Additionally, the technology is environmentally problematic due to the high energy consumption required for training large AI models, contributing to carbon emissions and other environmental impacts.

Risk of Deception

Finally, AI’s ability to generate text that seems plausible increases the risk of deception. This could lead individuals to believe they are engaging with spirits when they are merely interacting with a machine. This risk of false conclusions makes using AI in spirit communication questionable and potentially damaging to the integrity of paranormal research.

How Generative AI Could Be Helpful

Generative AI could still play a valuable role in paranormal investigations, particularly when reviewing evidence after an investigation. AI can help analyze large amounts of audio, video, or photographic data more efficiently than humans. It can spot patterns or anomalies that may otherwise go unnoticed. Also, it can be trained to flag potential EVP recordings or visual distortions for further investigation. This means streamlining the review process and making it easier for investigators to focus on key findings. In this way, AI serves as a useful tool for enhancing evidence review. This allows human investigators to dig deeper into their findings with a more focused lens. However, this use case is distinct from attempting to communicate directly with spirits. As of now, the limitations and ethical concerns remain significant.

Is This the Reason Why Paranormal Drama Exists?

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The paranormal community is a dynamic world that is both fascinating and captivating – filled with dedicated individuals seeking to unravel the mysteries of the unknown. However, this community is also one that is too often plagued by petty drama, infighting, and unproductive conflicts. This is also known as paranormal drama.

I’ve seen quite an influx in online paranormal drama in the last few years. From taking jabs at someone’s weight, joking about someone’s trauma, bringing kids into arguments, dedicated groups on Facebook to make fun of people, and false accusations for sympathy…the online community has taken a strange turn.

The Downside of Passionate, Sensitive Souls

Why does this happen? A big part of it comes down to a lack of emotional intelligence. Many in the paranormal field are highly intelligent people, but emotional intelligence (also known as EQ) – the ability to understand, manage, and reason with emotions – is often lacking.

Those drawn to the paranormal world tend to be highly intuitive, sensitive souls. Their passion for the unexplained can make them quick to take offense, leap to conclusions, and engage in unproductive feuds. Egos can get involved, with researchers and investigators vying for attention, credibility, and influence in the community.

The Real Heroes Don’t Have Time for Drama

But here’s the thing – the individuals doing the most meaningful, impactful work in the paranormal field usually don’t have the time or energy to get caught up in this kind of drama. They are too busy researching, writing, investigating cases, planning events, and pushing the boundaries of our understanding of the unknown.

The researchers, authors, and event organizers making real contributions are the ones buried under stacks of case files, pouring over historical records, experimenting with new technologies, and coordinating complex investigations. They don’t have the luxury of engaging in petty squabbles or publicly jousting with rivals.

So when conflicts do occur, it takes their attention away from the work. This also adds another layer of negative thoughts and feelings because they’re distracted on something petty instead of their book, next investigation, their videos, etc.

The Cost of Unproductive Drama

Lately, I’ve noticed that the drama tends to be perpetuated by those on the fringes of the community – individuals seeking attention, validation, or a sense of importance that they can’t achieve through their own substantive work. They fill the void with gossip, speculation, and accusations. They create vague posts so people will ask questions or blindly pledge their support. They’ll post vague screenshots that don’t actually prove or show anything. They may also even share private messages that should stay private.

But this drama comes at a cost. It distracts from the genuine, meaningful work being done. It sows division and mistrust within the community. And it turns off potential new researchers and investigators who might be interested in getting involved. It pulls brilliant people away from important work.

Another thing that pops into this writer’s mind is that how some of these people can call themselves empathetic paranormal investigators and mediums when they can barely manage interacting with the living in a productive way? Something to think about.

A Call for More Emotional Intelligence

The paranormal community would be so much stronger, so much more productive and impactful, if we all focused more on emotional intelligence.

This also includes:

  • Understanding our own triggers and biases.
  • Communicating with empathy and nuance.
  • Elevating each other’s work rather than tearing each other down.

There is so much left to discover in the world of the paranormal. So many mysteries waiting to be unraveled. But that important work can only be done effectively when we come together in a spirit of mutual respect, collaboration, and intellectual humility. The drama needs to stop – the real heroes of the paranormal field are too busy changing the world to waste time on it.

The other aspect to consider is attempting to resolve conflicts in person. Going online does add a layer of dehumanization when you only see text on a screen. The keyboard is very good at stripping away the idea that the person you’re having issues with is an actual human being. I’ve found there’s been considerable resolution by picking up the phone and calling the person. Does it always work out perfectly? Of course not. But it’s a step in the right direction.

Why Friday the 13th is the Most Fascinating Day in History

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Friday the 13th is one of the most well-known superstitions in the world, and is often associated with bad luck and misfortune. But where does this belief come from, and why is Friday the 13th considered such an unlucky day? Let’s take a deep dive on this fascinating subject and you’ll see why Friday the 13th is such a fascinating day!

The Origins of Friday the 13th

The origins of the Friday the 13th superstition can be traced back centuries. One of the earliest mentions comes from the 14th century, when Chaucer referenced the day as being “inauspicious” in his Canterbury Tales. 

Yet, the roots of the superstition likely go back even further.

Many historians point to the story of the Last Supper and the crucifixion of Jesus as one potential source of the myth. In Christian tradition, 13 people were present at the Last Supper, with Judas being the 13th to join. Judas was the disciple who betrayed Jesus. The next day was Jesus’s crucifixion – which was a Friday.

Further evidence of the unlucky nature of the number 13 can be found in Norse mythology. In the legend of Valhalla, the trickster god Loki was the 13th guest to arrive at a dinner party. His arrival led to the death of the god Balder. This narrative may have further contributed to the negative associations with the number 13. The similarities between this legend and the Last Supper are not lost to this writer.

The Superstition Over Time

Over time, the superstition surrounding Friday the 13th took on a life of its own. In more recent centuries, many people have gone to great lengths to avoid activities or decisions made on that date. Some hotels and hospitals have even chosen to omit a 13th floor or room. Airlines frequently avoid flight numbers containing the number 13.

In Britain, Friday was once known as Hangman’s Day. This was because it was usually when people’s execution sentences would be carried out and these people would be hanged.

The only Friday that seems to not fall into this superstition was Good Friday – the day of Jesus Christ’s crucifixion. But I’m sure Jesus would have considered that day rather unlucky instead of good. The Church observes this day as a day of reflection and mourning before the Resurrection is celebrated on the following Sunday. Sailors, who are notoriously known for being superstitious, would sometimes begin a long voyage on Good Friday because of its religious connections.

In the modern day, this day continues to be a source of unease for many. Some people refuse to travel, make important decisions, or even leave their homes on that date. The fear has even manifested in the popular culture, with the Friday the 13th horror movie franchise being one of the most well-known representations of the superstition.

On a more fun note though is that Friday the 13th is often celebrated by tattoo shops. Some will offer $13 tattoos (with a $7 tip to the artist) or discount tattoos for the day. Shops like Lady Octopus Tattoos in Arlington, Virginia will also have a food drive to benefit the community.

The Lack of Evidence & Unlucky 13

Despite the prevalence of the Friday the 13th superstition, it’s worth noting that there is no scientific evidence to suggest that the day is actually any more unlucky than any other. Many researchers have studied accidents, hospital admission, and other data on Friday the 13th and found no statistical difference from any other day.

This writer was born on the 13th, which makes for an interesting birthday when it falls on a Friday. There is also a stigma about the number 13, and there’s even a reported fear of the number called triskaidekaphobia (pronounced trihs-keye-dek-uh-FOE-bee-uh).

The Pagan Meaning

But there’s a whole other side to the the origins of the superstitions surrounding Friday the 13th. It can also be traced back to the ancient Norse goddess Freya. Freya was a powerful deity associated with love, beauty, fertility, war, and death.

In Norse mythology, Freya was believed to preside over the “Frejya’s Day” or “Freya’s Day”, which was the precursor to the modern Friday. The number 13 also held sacred significance for Freya, as it was connected to the lunar cycles and the divine feminine.

The negative connotations associated with Friday the 13th emerged later, as Christian influence grew in Scandinavia, as wel know. The associations with Freya and the feminine divine were deemed “pagan” and “unholy.”

However, some modern pagan and Wiccan traditions have sought to reclaim the significance of Friday the 13th as a celebration of the sacred feminine, honoring Freya’s legacy. They view the day as a time to embrace the more mystical, intuitive, and powerful aspects of the divine feminine, in contrast to the superstitious fears that have accumulated over time.

So while the mainstream culture may still see Friday the 13th as an ominous date, those who follow Freya-based spiritual paths often view it as a day to honor the goddess and the sacred feminine principles she represents.

In Conclusion

Ultimately, the power of Friday the 13th lies in the collective imagination and cultural history that has built up around it over centuries. Whether you choose to avoid major decisions or carry on as usual, the enduring legacy of this superstitious day serves as a fascinating glimpse into the roots of human beliefs and superstitions.

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The Problem of Absolute Certainty in the Paranormal

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In the world of paranormal investigation, enthusiasts and professionals are drawn by the mystique of the unknown. Exploring haunted locations, analyzing mysterious penomena, and attempting to uncover evidence of the supernatural can be both exciting and intellectually stimulating. However, amidst the excitement, there lies a significant pitfall: the temptation to embrace absolutes in our analysis.

What’s the Problem?

Absolutes, like declaring with unwavering certainty that a location is haunted or that a particular phenomenon is undeniably paranormal, can lead investigators down a problematic path. While confidence in one’s findings is crucial, it’s essential to recognize the limitations of our understanding and the complexities inherent in the paranormal realm. The opposite is also an issue, especially when a plausible logical explanation has surfaced, and the debunked fixates on the one explainable possibility instead of exploring other ways to debunk.

One of the primary issues with embracing absolutes in paranormal investigation is the lack of concrete scientific evidence. Unlike traditional scientific disciplines where hypotheses can be rigorously tested and validated through controlled experiments, the paranormal often defies such methodologies. Phenomena are frequently subjective, fleeting, and difficult to replicate under controlled conditions, making it challenging to establish definitive conclusions. The ability to recreate paranormal experiences continues to be the tough nut to crack, so to speak.

Seeking Alternatives

Plus, human perception and psychology play significant roles in shaping our experiences of the paranormal. Our brains are wired to seek patterns and meaning in the world around us, often leading to the misinterpretation of natural phenomena as supernatural. Optical illusions, auditory hallucinations, and environmental factors can all contribute to false perceptions of paranormal activity, further complicating the investigative process. Many in the ghost hunting field are still unfamiliar with the various forms of pareidolia, especially visual, auditory, and tactile.

In the quest for certainty, investigators may also fall victim to confirmation bias—the tendency to interpret evidence in a way that confirms preexisting beliefs or hypotheses. This bias can lead to the cherry-picking of data and the dismissal of alternative explanations, ultimately hindering the objective evaluation of paranormal claims.

Furthermore, the paranormal field is rife with pseudoscience, misinformation, and outright fraud. Without rigorous skepticism and critical thinking, investigators risk being misled by unscrupulous individuals peddling sensationalized stories or dubious evidence. Embracing absolutes without robust evidence only serves to undermine the credibility of paranormal research as a whole.

How to Avoid the Absolute Certainty

So, what can investigators do to navigate these pitfalls?

First and foremost, humility is key. Recognize that the paranormal is inherently uncertain and that definitive answers may remain elusive. Approach investigations with an open mind, acknowledging the possibility of natural explanations for purported phenomena.

Secondly, employ a skeptical mindset. This doesn’t mean you have to become a skeptic. Instead, think like a skeptic. Question assumptions, scrutinize evidence rigorously, and remain vigilant against confirmation bias. Consider alternative explanations for observed phenomena and seek out corroborating evidence from multiple sources.

Thirdly, embrace collaboration and peer review. Engage with fellow investigators, share findings openly, and subject your conclusions to scrutiny from others in the field. Constructive criticism and diverse perspectives can help refine your methodology and enhance the credibility of your research.

Closing Thoughts

In conclusion, while the temptation to embrace absolutes in paranormal investigation may be strong, it’s essential to exercise caution and humility in our pursuit of the unknown. By acknowledging the inherent uncertainties, embracing skepticism, and fostering collaboration, we can elevate the standards of paranormal research and approach the mysteries of the unseen with integrity and perhaps, credibility.

Do You See Ghosts? You Might Be Losing Your Eyesight

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It’s the middle of the night, and you’re lying in bed, stressing out about the next workday with looming deadlines and an overbearing boss. As you attempt to sleep, you open your eyes in the darkness of your bedroom, and that’s when you see it.

You observe a disfigured shape in the corner, staring back at you. But that’s not all; the shape resembles a woman dressed in Victorian clothing, and her face is disfigured. The sight of this entity frightens you, and you move back as fast as you can. As you do so, the disturbing figure glides towards you and just stares at you.

Two possibilities might explain what’s happening. One, you’re being haunted by the Victorian woman.

Two, you might be in the early stages of losing your eyesight.

What is Charles Bonnet Syndrome?

The scenario described above is one of the common scenarios experienced by people who suffer from Charles Bonnet Syndrome (CBS). It is a condition that is associated with visual hallucinations that occur during sight loss. What stands out the most with this condition is that the people who suffer from these hallucinations are mentally sound. CBS has also been called “phantom vision” or “ghost vision” as experiences have been recorded throughout time.

The Syndrome was first studied in 1760 by Swiss scientist Charles Bonnet (BON-ay). He began to study this occurrence when his grandfather started experiencing visual hallucinations after he developed cataracts. The hallucinations included visions of people, carriages, birds, and buildings, which could only be seen by his grandfather. These visions were spontaneous and were seen in what was left of his eyesight.

Bonnet also noticed that his grandfather was mentally sound and was not experiencing any symptoms associated with mental illnesses.

Some people have reported seeing disembodied gargoyle heads with Charles Bonnet Syndrome.

Types of Hallucinations

Hallucinations will vary depending on the person, their medical condition, and their stress levels. Some people may experience flashes of light while others may experience color changes. Others may experience all different types of hallucinations, including the frightening images of ghosts. Some people have seen figures dressed in period clothing and moving as if they were gliding across the floor. Missing body parts like hands, arms, or even faces are common occurrences. These visions will also be in great detail, even for people with vision that is blurry.

Those with CBS have also seen incredible images like a double-decker bus going through their living room, or people sitting on their couch, kitchen table, bed, etc. They have also seen surfaces covered in patterns like tiles or bricks, even bottles, hats, or dancing children, and the visions can last from several seconds to several hours. What is consistent is that these visions appear and vanish abruptly. One of the most frightening hallucinations include floating, disembodied faces that squirm during random times. These faces have wide eyes that don’t blink, plus prominent teeth and features like a gargoyle.

Experts in CBS believe that increased stress levels can contribute to the manifestation of more negative images. The condition also seems to be more common among people who live alone with limited social interaction.

Why Does This Happen?

One of the most common causes of CBS is macular degeneration, which is a disease that causes certain light-sending cells in the retina to malfunction and cause a blindspot in the center of a person’s vision. Glaucoma and cataracts are also commonly associated with CBS.

As the eyes lose their ability to see, the brain will attempt to “fill in the blanks” for the missing information. It is the brain compensating for what the eyes could no longer see and is trying to help the person navigate through their surroundings. CBS has been compared to phantom limb syndrome after an amputation has taken place.

How Common is Charles Bonnet Syndrome?

A study conducted by Dr. M.L. Jackson of the Massachusetts Eye and Ear Infirmary and Dr. Joseph Ferencz of the Harvard Department of Ophthalmology and the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Neurosciences at McMaster University in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada, found that Charles Bonnet Syndrome affects approximately 10% to 38% of people with visual impairments.

One of the main reasons for the vast range is because not everyone who suffers from CBS reports it to their doctor. Other factors include differences in definitions as well as historical record-keeping of the condition and the symptom-specific context that’s taken into consideration.

Does Charles Bonnet Syndrome Explain All Paranormal Phenomena?

After learning about this condition, it may be easy to assume that Charles Bonnet Syndrome explains all paranormal phenomena. That’s not the case. The condition has been studied by scientists and skeptics alike and as people have learned more about CBS, it’s very symptom specific depending on the type of person. 

For example, CBS wouldn’t explain why people would encounter the same type of phenomenon at a haunted location. Also, CBS wouldn’t explain other experiences like sight, smell, or touch. But just because CBS doesn’t explain all paranormal experiences, it doesn’t mean it should be disregarded or forgotten. It is definitely something to look into and discuss with your doctor if you believe.

The Importance of Sharing Experiences

Patients are often unwilling to share their experiences with their doctor, let alone with others, because they fear they will be judged as mentally incompetent. Therefore, they don’t say anything and end up suffering in silence. Sharing experiences is incredibly important for the person going through this because it will help them get the support they need. Not only that, but it will also help doctors and other members of the scientific community gather information and data on the condition. As we know research and data collection is critical to learn more about the issue as well as move forward towards preventative treatment and a possible cure.

When people with CBS see hallucinations, they often suffer in silence/

Closing Thoughts

Robert Lanza said in his book, Biocentrism, that the world only exists because we are looking at it. What we see is a reality that is created in our heads, our consciousness. If humans weren’t there to observe the world, it would be nothing.

As people with CBS navigate through their lives seeing visions of people, objects, animals, etc, that is their reality as they know it. It only exists because they see it.

Could we say the same thing for ghosts?

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The True Story of The Burning Bride of Alexandria

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This Alexandria legend is one of the most popular ghost stories in the town. Alexandria is noted for its plethora of ghost stories, many of which feature women at the forefront. As with many legends and lore, they often deviate from the truth for the sake of a good scare. But sometimes, at least in the case of Laura M. Schafer, famously known as the Burning Bride of Alexandria, truth is more horrifying than fiction.

One Fateful Night

In June of 1868, Laura M. Schafer lived with her family at their home on N. Fairfax Street. On the bottom floor was a confectionary ran by her father Mr. Christian Schafer, who was a prominent citizen of Alexandria. The second and third floor would be the residence in which the Schafer family lived. 

On one fateful night in late June, Laura was getting dressed for bed on the third floor of the house, with her grandmother, named Mrs. Ballenger, in the room with her. According to an article from the The Alexandria Gazette, Laura went to father’s room to wish him goodnight. She wasn’t even halfway into her father’s room when she heard the glass of her kerosene lamp crack. The burning oil from the lamp landed on her dress. Laura frantically threw the lamp into the hearth in her father’s room and ran out of the room, screaming and crying for help.

Unfortunately, the wind from Laura’s running only added fuel to the fire. By the time she reached the bottom, the flames had reached above her head. Her brother-in-law, William Phillips, had been at the stairs in front of the house when he heard her cries. Her mother also heard the cries and tried to help her. Phillips removed his coat and wrapped Laura, which extinguished the flames. Laura’ grandmother had used a blanket to extinguish the flames that had been going in Laura’s father’s room.

Clip from The Alexandria Gazette recounting the tragedy from June 29, 1848.

Sadly, Laura had severe burns, parts of which The Alexandria Gazette described as “to a crisp.” By 11:00am the next morning, Laura passed away, with her companion, Mr. Charles Tenneson by her side.

It was rumored that Laura and Charles were engaged to be married, but not confirmed. They were friends for years and Laura wouldn’t take another man as a friend.

A Broken Heart

Charles took Laura’s death rather hard. The day of her death, he took to drinking. His friend, a Mr. Henry Green, walked with Charles to the local wholesale liquor store and bar. Mr. Green didn’t have the key to the back door, so Charles waited for him in Ramsey Alley, which was right next to the Schafer House. Mr. Green let Charles in through the back door and he offered to buy Charles any drink on his bill. As the two men said cheers, Charles said, “Here’s to you and I – God save us.” As Mr. Green took an empty glass back to the bar, he heard a gunshot and Charles on the floor. The heartbroken Charles took a pistol to his head. Even though he was unconscious, he passed away around 3:20pm.

While not specific, local churches took care of the final arrangements for the young couple. Laura is buried at Washington Street United Methodist Church in Alexandria, and it’s believed that Charles is buried not too far from her.

The staircase of the Schafer House. Credit: Alex Matsuo

The Schafer House went through a few different identities after it was a confectionery with the Schafer family. It has been a real estate agency, a Christmas trinket store called the Christmas Attic, once again a candy store, and currently, at the time this piece was written, it is a coffee house and gelato shop with an AirBnB on the third floor. According to Michael Lee Pope, author of Ghosts of Alexandria, tenants who have owned and worked in the building know something is different and not quite right.

Echoes of a Traumatic Past

One local ghost tour guide shared that she felt lightheaded and dizzy when she visited the house while it was the Christmas Attic. Employees of the Christmas Attic also shared that Christmas trees and other holiday props would be knocked down the next morning after the store closed.

When a woman named Candida Kreb opened Candi’s Candies in the house in 2007, she never knew the story of Laura Schafer until a ghost tour was outside one evening. Kreb told the group that she doesn’t believe in ghosts before closing the window. But then she had an experience that changed her mind.

Front of the Schafer House. Credit: Alex Matsuo

Kreb was working alone one evening while closing the shop when she smelled something burning. She went to the hallway to search for the source but didn’t find anything. Using her nose, Kreb followed the smell upstairs, but once again, found nothing. Kreb decided it must have been a neighbor smoking. So, she closed the shop for the night. The next day, the smell came back. As Kreb went to investigate once more, she went to the same staircase that Laura ran down for her life and it was then Kreb remembered the story of Laura.

This wouldn’t be Kreb’s only experience. One night, she was cleaning the store when she had this overwhelming feeling of being watched. She heard a voice in her head say, “Enough. Leave.” Kreb didn’t stick around and quickly took the cash register and left. She believes that this was Laura telling her that she overstayed her welcome and it was time to go. Kreb also reported feeling an overwhelming presence in the basement as well and described it as a male.

Kreb kept a receipt signed by Laura M. Schaefer behind the cash register. It is unknown if the coffee and gelato shop still have it, but it’s a nice reminder that there are real people behind these stories.

Legends & Lore Emerge

Variations of Laura Schafer’s tragic end and the paranormal experiences following have become widely popular. The story I heard on the ghost tour described Laura as a bride and the wedding was taking place at the confectionery and the town square right next door. Laura the Bride had gone upstairs when the kerosene lamp broke and the burning oil spilled onto her wedding dress. Like the real account, Laura the Bride ran downstairs while engulfed in flames. But this time, she ran outside to the wedding reception and was ablaze in front of her wedding guests. Other variations will state that Laura was just trying on her wedding dress for the ceremony that would take place a week later. Hence, this is why Laura became known as the Burning Bride of Alexandria. 

The Schafer House as a coffee and gelato shop. Credit: Alex Matsuo

Similar outcome as well as the death of Charles Tenneson, with stories sometimes pinning his death in Ramsey Alley instead of the bar. Other bastardizations of the story even have Charles as a stalker throwing stones at Laura’s window and setting her on fire himself.

Given the horrific tragedy of Laura’s death, no embellishment or exaggerations are needed. Laura certainly had her own identity and agency, which seems to be reduced to a burning bride. But, there are people who are dedicated to sharing the true story of Laura’s passing, thus giving her her identity back.

Spirits and Shadows: Navigating Sexual Harassment in the Paranormal Realm

Alex Matsuo

Welcome to a candid exploration of a topic that often lurks in the shadows of an otherworldly realm—the prevalence of sexual harassment within the paranormal field. As enthusiasts and professionals dedicated to unraveling mysteries beyond the veil, it’s crucial to shed light on a disturbing reality that affects our community.

In this blog, I’m going confront the misconception that sexual harassment can be dismissed as mere flirtation within the paranormal context. I’ll unravel the layers of this issue, emphasizing why there is no excuse for such behavior and why it is imperative to address it head-on.

No cloak of mystery or ethereal aura can justify the violation of personal boundaries. I’ll delve into the reasons why there is absolutely no excuse for sexual harassment, underscoring the impact it has on individuals and the collective spirit of our paranormal community. By holding individuals accountable for their actions, we aim to preserve the integrity and positive energy that should define our shared pursuits.

Confronting the reality of sexual harassment becomes even more challenging when it involves someone familiar within our paranormal circles. I’ll provide guidance on navigating the delicate process of addressing accusations against someone you know. I’ll also explore the importance of supporting victims, encouraging accountability, and fostering an environment that prioritizes the well-being of all community members.

Join me on this journey of introspection and empowerment as we strive to create a paranormal field free from the shadows of harassment, where our shared passion can thrive in an atmosphere of mutual respect and genuine connection. I’ll be using three statements I’ve recently heard as starting points for discussion.

“But the person has a sex addiction.”

Using sex addiction as an excuse for sexual harassment is problematic for several reasons. Firstly, it can perpetuate harmful stereotypes and misunderstandings about sex addiction itself. True sex addiction is a complex and often misunderstood psychological condition that involves a compulsive and harmful relationship with sexual behaviors. Using it as a justification for harassment may trivialize the struggles of those genuinely dealing with sex addiction.

Secondly, attributing harassment to sex addiction can divert attention from the responsibility of the harasser for their actions. It’s essential to recognize that sexual harassment is a behavior rooted in a misuse of power and a violation of consent, irrespective of any underlying personal challenges.

Thirdly, framing sexual harassment as a symptom of sex addiction may contribute to a culture of victim-blaming. This approach could shift the focus away from supporting and protecting the victims, placing undue sympathy on the perpetrator instead.

It is crucial to address sexual harassment through a lens of accountability, consent, and the promotion of healthy attitudes towards relationships. This involves holding individuals responsible for their actions and fostering a culture that condemns harassment while providing support and understanding for those genuinely struggling with mental health issues, including sex addiction.

“They were just flirting.”

Labeling sexual harassment as flirting perpetuates a harmful misconception that undermines the importance of consent and contributes to a culture that normalizes inappropriate behavior. Flirting involves mutual interest, respect, and the intention to create a positive and consensual connection between individuals.

Sexual harassment, on the other hand, is an unwelcome and often offensive behavior that violates personal boundaries, disregards consent, and creates an uncomfortable or hostile environment. Mischaracterizing harassment as flirting dismisses the serious impact it has on the victims, downplays the violation of personal boundaries, and fosters a culture that tolerates inappropriate conduct.

It is crucial to differentiate between genuine, consensual flirting and behavior that crosses the line into harassment. By using accurate and clear language, we contribute to a society that values respect, communication, and the importance of mutual consent in all interpersonal interactions. Addressing sexual harassment for what it is helps create a safer and more respectful environment for everyone.

“I’m running a paranormal event and have already booked a person with accusations as a guest. What do I do?”

Ensuring the safety and well-being of all event attendees is paramount. In cases of sexual harassment accusations against a guest, it is crucial for event organizers to take these allegations seriously, even when hard proof may be lacking. The potential risk and harm associated with such incidents demand a proactive and empathetic response.

While the legal system may require evidence to establish guilt, the absence of hard proof does not diminish the significance of addressing these concerns. Ignoring or downplaying accusations can create an unsafe environment and perpetuate a culture of silence that discourages victims from coming forward.

Event organizers have a responsibility to prioritize the safety and comfort of all attendees. Implementing thorough investigations, providing a confidential reporting system, and taking appropriate actions, such as restricting access or removing the accused party if necessary, contribute to fostering an environment where individuals feel protected and supported.

By taking a proactive stance against sexual harassment, event organizers contribute to creating spaces where everyone can enjoy themselves without fear, emphasizing the importance of a culture that values the well-being and safety of all participants.

“The person in question is my friend. What do I do? Who do I believe?”

Discovering that a friend has engaged in sexual harassment is a challenging situation that requires careful consideration and decisive action. It’s crucial to prioritize the well-being and safety of potential victims while encouraging accountability and personal growth. Here are steps to take if you find out that your friend has been involved in such behavior:

  1. Believe and Support the Victim:
    Start by believing the victim and providing emotional support. Let them know that you take their experience seriously and that you stand with them.
  2. Confront Your Friend:
    Address the issue with your friend directly but without confrontation. Express your concern, let them know you’ve learned about their actions, and make it clear that such behavior is unacceptable.
  3. Encourage Accountability:
    Encourage your friend to take responsibility for their actions. Acknowledge the impact of their behavior on others and emphasize the importance of learning and growth.
  4. Suggest Professional Help:
    If appropriate, suggest seeking professional help, such as therapy or counseling, to address the underlying issues contributing to their behavior.
  5. Distance Yourself if Necessary:
    Depending on the severity of the situation and your friend’s response, consider distancing yourself if you feel it’s necessary. Prioritize the safety and well-being of others.
  6. Report if Necessary:
    If the harassment involves criminal activity or if you believe there is an immediate threat, consider reporting the behavior to the appropriate authorities.
  7. Promote Education and Change:
    Encourage your friend to educate themselves about consent, boundaries, and respectful behavior. Advocate for positive change and growth.
  8. Reflect on Your Values:
    Take time to reflect on your own values and boundaries. Consider whether maintaining the friendship aligns with your principles and whether it is healthy for you and those around you.

Remember, addressing sexual harassment is a delicate process, and your actions should prioritize the safety and well-being of potential victims. If you ever find yourself uncertain about the best course of action, seek guidance from professionals or organizations dedicated to supporting victims of harassment.

In Conclusion

Hopefully, I have unveiled the unsettling specter of sexual harassment and dismantled the notion that it could ever be disguised as innocent flirtation. This exploration has emphasized that there is no excuse for such behavior, challenging us to uphold the standards of respect, consent, and inclusivity that should define our shared passion.

As we all navigate the shadowy corners where harassment persists, remember that our collective strength lies in accountability and empathy. By supporting victims, holding perpetrators responsible, and fostering an environment that prioritizes safety, we wield the tools to banish sexual harassment from our community. Together, let us forge a future where the pursuit of the paranormal is not tainted by shadows, but illuminated by the shared commitment to creating a space that is welcoming, secure, and empowering for all.

Haunted DC: The Haunting of the Smithsonian Castle

Alex Matsuo

Washington DC is one of those haunted places that many people sleep on. Why is this? Well, Washington DC is dominated by its reputation as the capital of the United States. When people visit DC, it’s usually not to see the ghosts. Instead, it’s to see the White House, the Capitol Building, a Smithsonian Museum, the Library of Congress, and more. Ironically, the places I listed are also haunted.

After I relocated to Arlington, Virginia, just across the Potomac River and minutes from DC on a good traffic day, I decided to learn more about the area by researching the local haunts. Imagine my surprise when I counted over 60 haunted locations just within 10 miles from where I live!

First on the list is the Smithsonian Institution, also known as the Smithsonian Castle. It served as the institution’s first headquarters and is still a prominent landmark today.

A Generous Gift

The Smithsonian was established through the will of James Smithson, a British scientist and mineralogist, who left his fortune to the United States to create an institution dedicated to the “increase and diffusion of knowledge.” How exactly the United States obtained the fortune is rather complex. Smithson was originally born in scandal and when he passed, he left his fortune to his nephew. If said nephew died without an heir, then the fortune would be passed on to the United States.

Sure enough, when Smithson’s nephew passed unmarried and childless, the United States got quite the gift on their hands. This unusual bequest, which is believed to be a result of Smithson’s fascination with American democracy and scientific advancements, laid the foundation for what would become the Smithsonian. 

The Smithsonian Institution was established  in 1846 by the United States Congress after years of legal and bureaucratic processes in order to accept Smithson’s generous gift. The design of the castle was determined by a competition and architect James Renwick, Jr. won by a unanimous vote. Renwick’s design of the Castle included a Gothic revival style with Romanesque motifs, a style often chosen for universities in England. 

Construction Begins

Construction officially started in 1847. That same year, the Smithsonian’s Board of Regents made a decision to save money by replacing the brick vaults and iron beams with wooden columns and rafters instead. This decision would end up being disastrous. The East Wing was completed in 1849 and occupied by Joseph Henry, the institution’s first secretary. Joseph Henry was a prominent physicist and played a crucial role in shaping its early direction.

The exterior was completed in 1852 and Renwick excused himself from the rest of the construction since his part of the work was done. The rest of the work was completed in 1855 by the general contractor, Gilbert Cameron..

In 1865, a roof fire heavily damaged the upper floor of the Smithsonian and sadly, destroyed the original letters of Smithson as well as Joseph Henry’s papers.

The Smithson Crypt

Smithson Crypt. Credit: The Smithsonian Institution

James Smithson originally passed away in Genoa, Italy in 1829 and was buried there. Then, his remains were brought to the United States in 1904 by a team headed by Alexander Graham Bell before being reinterred in 1905 at the Castle. His tomb is located in a small chamber in the lower level and includes the original Italian grave marker. An inscription on the tomb reads:

“James Smithson, Benefactor of the Smithsonian Institution, Died June 27, 1829”

In 1974, the Castle was going through renovations and the gate to the crypt was removed, giving visitors the opportunity to see Smithson’s tomb up close and personal. Also during the renovation around 1973, Smithson’s coffin was opened and his remains went through a scientific study by curator Dr. Lawrence Angel. It was determined that Smithson was about 5 feet 6 inches tall, had an extra vertebrae, smoked a pipe, and died of natural causes. 48 hours later, Smithson’s remains were resealed and the coffin was returned.

Visitors to the Smithsonian Castle can still see his tomb today, paying tribute to the man whose generosity and vision led to the creation of one of the most renowned institutions for education, research, and culture in the United States. 

Reported Hauntings

Joseph Henry

Joseph Henry Portrait. Credit: The Smithsonian Institution. “Record Unit 95, Box 11, Folder 15”

One of the earliest ghost stories surrounding the Smithsonian Castle is that of Joseph Henry, who was the first Secretary of the Smithsonian Institution. He died in his living quarters in the Castle in 1878. He was a physicist who specialized in the study of electromagnetism, so he was very much a skeptic of any sort of afterlife. Ironically, Henry didn’t believe in ghosts, so the fact he’s such a prominent ghostly presence is quite ironic. Today, a statue of Henry’s likeness stands in front of the Castle. It is reported that his shadow will escape from the statue and his spirit wanders the halls at night. In 1900, a nightwatchman reportedly ran into Henry, who was dressed for the work day and getting ready to go about his duties at the Castle.

Joseph Henry statue at entrance of Smithsonian Institution Building. Credit: The Smithsonian Institution

James Smithson

James Smithson (1860)

Even though James Smithson died long before the Castle or any of the museums were ever built, let alone thought of, it seems that he is admiring the result of his generous gift. His apparition started to get spotted after his remains were brought to the Castle and interred at the crypt. The apparition was noticed enough to the point where his tomb was actually reopened to check the status of his remains, which, according to legend, is why Smithson’s coffin was reopened in 1973. Upon opening the casket, it was noted that Smithson’s remains were very disorganized and disheveled. Once his remains were placed respectfully back into the casket, sightings ceased.

Dr. Emil Bessels

Dr. Emil Bessels (1880)

Dr. Emil Bessels was a German Jewish naturalist as well as an Arctic explorer. He was also a zoologist and physician who had a thirst for knowledge. This is why it shouldn’t be surprising that Dr. Bessels is frequently spotted gliding down the hallways of the Castle and looking through the Institution’s curios.

Spencer Fullerton Baird

Spencer Fullerton Baird, photographed by Wil

Spencer Fullerton Baird was the first curator of the Smithsonian Castle as well as the second secretary. His apparition has often been seen around the Castle. Upon looking at his photo, his appearance is rather striking and unforgettable, so it’s unlikely that he would have been mistaken for someone else. His long career at the Smithsonian was so notable that it doesn’t seem he wants to leave, even in the afterlife. But if you try to talk to Baird’s spirit, he disappears.

Fielding B. Meek

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Fielding Bradford Meek lived at the Smithsonian Castle with his cat and passed away in his room on December 21st, 1876 after dealing with a debilitating bout of tuberculosis. His original room was under one of the staircases before he was relocated to one of the towers after the 1865 fire. He was known to be an odd character and mainly kept to himself. Today, he is one of the most active spirits. If you encounter Meek, he doesn’t mean to do you harm. He’s just looking for someone to talk archaeology and mollusks to.

Meek wrote, “This is all the family I have” under this drawing of his cat.

Other Ghost Stories

Other spirited sightings have plagued the Castle. One of which includes the mournful cry of a bird that has been long dead and preserved in the Smithsonian. A night watchman named Donald reported seeing the apparition of a Japanese swordsman who had a knife in his hand.

The Smithsonian Today

Today, the Smithsonian comprises 19 museums, 21 libraries, nine research centers, and a zoo, collectively attracting millions of visitors annually. Its mission to “increase and diffuse knowledge” continues to guide its diverse activities, making it a revered institution in the United States and a symbol of the nation’s commitment to education, science, and culture. The Smithsonian team is very open and transparent about the hauntings around their different locations, even hosting an episode of their podcast on the topic. But in other articles, people have determined that the Smithsonian Castle is not haunted and it’s simply urban legend.

The Smithsonian Castle is currently closed as of February 1st, 2023 for a 5-year renovation project. But you can still look and admire the building from the outside!

Sources

https://www.si.edu/sidedoor/spooked-smithsonian

https://siarchives.si.edu/blog/smithsonian-castle-mystery

https://siarchives.si.edu/blog/spooks-and-spirits-stories-smithsonian-3

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smithsonian-institution/the-ghosts-who-haunt-the-smithsonian-180981013/

https://dcghosts.com/the-smithsonian-castle/

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smithsonian-institution/the-ghosts-who-haunt-the-smithsonian-180981013/

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https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/opinions/1995/11/05/from-satan-to-the-sphinx-the-masonic-mysteries-of-dcs-map/9bff53f2-0fa5-4149-bcae-6b8a2c77203d/

https://artsandculture.google.com/story/secrets-of-the-smithson-monument-smithsonian-institution-building-the-castle/FQVhuombfIM7Lw?hl=en

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smithsonian-institution/urban-legends-about-the-smithsonian-135407460/

The Ghost Who Haunted The Site of The Exorcist House

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While the house that was used for “The Exorcist” may not be haunted, the land was host to Prospect Cottage, the site of a fascinating ghost story involving one of the most famous female authors of the 19th century.

When “The Exorcist” was released in 1973, it took the world by storm. The story of a young girl named Regan becoming possessed by the demon Pazuzu and the battle for her soul, both captivated and terrified audiences. Thus, the filming locations in Georgetown in Washington, D.C., became landmarks in their own right. Since “The Exorcist: Believer” is coming out in October 2023, let’s take a look at the haunting that took place on the land where the Exorcist House sits now.

While the infamous Exorcist Steps and House aren’t known to be haunted, it doesn’t stop tourists from stopping to take a picture of the cinematic landmarks. If you go up the Steps, you can easily see the Exorcist House to your left. Please note that the Exorcist House is privately owned (I can’t stress this enough), so be sure to enjoy the house from a distance and don’t walk onto the property. The House was used for the exterior shots for the movie. People often recreate the iconic movie poster with Father Merrin standing in front of the House at night in an eerie fog. I’ve heard the owners are welcoming, but take that information with a grain of salt.

Source for Both Photos: Alex Matsuo (recreating the final scene from “The Exorcist” on the right)

But what many people don’t know is that the location of the house was once the location of Prospect Cottage, owned by Emma Dorothy Eliza Nevitte (E.D.E.N.) Southworth. What also isn’t well known is that Prospect Cottage was the site of several ghostly sightings before it was eventually torn down in the 1940s. All we have are a few newspaper articles from the early 1900s to tell us the story.

Who was E.D.E.N. Southworth?

Source: womenhistoryblog.com

E.D.E.N. Southworth was born as Emma Nevitte on December 26th, 1819 in Washington, D.C., in a house developed by George Washington. She wrote over 60 novels in her career, often featuring heroines who went against societal norms of the Victorian era. She was also a friend and contemporary of Harriet Beecher Stowe. E.D.E.N. was one of the most popular novelists of her time. She was also an avid supporter of women’s rights and social change.

At the deathbed request of her father, Emma was rechristened as Emma Dorothy Eliza Nevitte, (E.D.E.N.). After her father’s death in 1824, her mother remarried to a school teacher named Joshua L. Henshaw. E.D.E.N. and her step-father did not get along. She described herself as a dark wild-eyed elf, as well as being shy. After she completed her secondary education at the age of 15, E.D.E.N. became a schoolteacher at 16. 

E.D.E.N. got married at 21 in 1840 to an inventor named Frederick H. Southworth from New York and the couple moved to Wisconsin. The couple was living on the frontier in a log cabin and E.D.E.N. despised life. She had two children with Frederick, a son and a daughter. In 1844, E.D.E.N. returned to DC without Frederick, who abandoned his family in search of gold in South America. 

Now a single mother, E.D.E.N. started teaching at a measly $250 per year. To supplement her income, she started writing to support herself and her children. She submitted stories to magazines, and her writing was very well-received. The editor of the National Era contracted her first novel. She eventually became one of the highest paid authors of her day with an annual salary of $10,000. She was able to step back from teaching and write full time.

A New Home and Mysterious Voice

Source: Woman’s Record, 1855

Around 1853 to the 1860s (exact date is unknown), E.D.E.N. moved into Prospect Cottage at 36th Street and Prospect, where The Exorcist Steps and House sits today. It is unknown when Prospect Cottage was built. But we do know it was formerly owned by a former French minister. The house had a Carpenter Gothic design, which was popular at the time.

The House closely resembled a gingerbread house with icicle-like decoration along the roof. E.D.E.N. would live in this house for the majority of the Civil War. Here is a newspaper clipping describing Prospect Cottage in 1899.

E.D.E.N. was an avid supporter of the Union. Since her house was located along the Potomac River, she could see the Confederate border from her house. She also had a front row seat to Lincoln’s second inauguration and worked at Seminary Hospital. E.D.E.N. also lets the hospital use her house to help as many as 27 soldiers to recover from their wounds at one point.

According to legend, after the second battle of Bull Run, all of the residents of Georgetown were terrified of the Confederates coming in. Knowing her home would be one of the first stops for the Confederacy, E.D.E.N. barricaded herself in her house. As she stood by the door, she said, “There’s only 3 of us here, what are we going to do if the Confederates come?” A voice in the darkness replied, “There are 4 of you here and you will be fine.” E.D.E.N., her children, and the house survived and they were indeed fine.

Source: Dig DC

A Long & Accomplished Life

Towards the end of E.D.E.N.’s life, the Union Station (now the Car Barn) was built next door, and the Exorcist Steps were constructed while she was alive. E.D.E.N. passed away in 1899 in Prospect Cottage and was buried in Oak Hill Cemetery, just up the hill. Her son, Richard, inherited the house, and lived there until he passed away a year later. E.D.E.N.’s daughter, Charlotte, then inherited the house, but she wasn’t interested in keeping the house, so she sells it. The house gets bought and sold a few times.

Source: Streets of Washington Flickr

From Home to Ice Cream

Prospect Cottage then became an ice cream parlor. The ice cream parlor was in the sitting room and the drawing room became a cafe. They sold ice cream, lunches, live bait, cigars, and tobacco. There was even a classic Coca-Cola sign. It became a popular spot for people to sit and wait for the street cars that were passing through Georgetown. It was such a popular spot and pretty much a tourist trap because E.D.E.N.’s legacy was still well known. People would rip off the wood as souvenirs. They would also catch the bugs so they could tell people it was from E.D.E.N. Southworth’s house. 

Here’s a snippet from an article in The Washington Post, dated 1905:

The text reads: “Now the sitting-room that Mrs. Southworth planned is an ice cream parlor, and the handsome, old drawing-room serves as a cafe. On the verandas visitors sit and chat as they wait for the [street]cars. Their talk is of Mrs. Southworth, and it is claimed that they cut great splinters out of the porch and side of the house, and even capture the bugs and grasshoppers in the yard for souvenirs. Furthermore, they pull up the weeds by the roots and carry them off, happy in their ill-gotten spoils.”

The house was eventually bought by the National League of American Pen Women in 1928. They hoped to turn it into a museum for E.D.E.N. before it was torn down in 1942. The house that sits there today, The Exorcist House, was built in 1950.

The Ghost of E.D.E.N.

Source: Georgetown Metropolitan

It seems that E.D.E.N. Southworth still visited Prospect Cottage after she passed away, showing that not even death could hold her back from her home. 

There’s one particular story from the same 1905 Washington Post article, which was published about six years after she died, about an Italian grocer who set up his cart in front of Prospect Cottage one day. As he set up and got ready for the day, E.D.E.N. came out of the garden to chat with him. Since the grocer was a local, he knew that E.D.E.N. had passed several years ago. He didn’t even wait to see what she had to say. He ran and left his cart and all of his stuff in front of the house. 

During the days as an ice cream parlor, E.D.E.N. would frequently appear to talk to people inside Prospect Cottage. People passing by Prospect Cottage claimed that E.D.E.N. would be seen walking around edges of the veranda, wringing her hands.

The author of that article also ran into a boy. The boy tells them that he had seen E.D.E.N. in the window at night, looking out onto the street below.

Final Thoughts

Source: DC Public Library

It seems that once Prospect Cottage was torn down, the ghostly sightings of E.D.E.N. Southworth disappeared completely. This begs the question; did E.D.E.N. decide to move on after her home was razed, or were witnesses experiencing a residual haunting? Since people reported that she was having conversations with them, I’m leaning towards E.D.E.N. was enjoying the company in her home.

The haunting of Prospect Cottage is a hidden gem of Georgetown History. Sadly, it has been eclipsed by “The Exorcist” and the demonic spookiness that surrounds it. This is certainly not a negative haunting. This story is a delightful tale to show that not all ghosts are scary or evil. Sometimes it’s a famous author stopping by her house to have a chat with the new inhabitants.

How lovely would it be to have a chat over ice cream with the ghost of one of the most prolific authors of the 19th century?

Sources

https://www.librarycompany.org/women/portraits/southworth.htm

http://utc.iath.virginia.edu/sentimnt/southworthhp.html 

http://www.streetsofwashington.com/2012/01/prolific-mrs-eden-southworth-and-her.html 

Lost Georgetown: E.D.E.N Southworth’s Cottage

https://www.newspapers.com/article/the-baltimore-sun-prospect-cottage-artic/131390815/

https://www.womenhistoryblog.com/2012/08/e-d-e-n-southworth.html

https://digital.library.sc.edu/collections/e-d-e-n-southworth-collection/

Photos of Lost Southworth Cottage in Georgetown

Little Voices from Beyond: How to Speak with the Ghosts of Children

Alex Matsuo

In the paranormal investigation world, it is inevitable that we will run into a location where there are reports of spirits of children. While this can be unsettling to think about, because a life cut short is always tragic, it is a truth we have to face at times. Nothing reminds us more of our mortality than to encounter a life that didn’t have a chance to live.

The best way to communicate with child spirits is to treat them the same way you would when they were alive. However, this can be challenging for people who don’t encounter children in their daily lives or don’t work with children.

What Makes Me Qualified to Speak on This?

I worked in childhood and adolescent education for years. I started my interaction with kids helping in the church nursery in high school. In college, I spent my summers as a unit leader camp counselor for the YMCA. After graduate school, I spent my teaching career as a teaching artist for the local school district teaching theatre to kindergarten through 5th grade. In the summers, I was teaching reading skills from preschool through high school. Then, I was a preschool teacher for three years. I’ve interacted with nearly every age group leading up to adulthood before I eventually left the education field for the corporate life. But I’ve taken what I’ve learned and applied it to the paranormal field.

Disclaimer: These are just my suggestions based on my background as a former teacher and experience as a paranormal investigator. These tips aren’t the “only way” to talk to the spirits of kids.

First Things First: They’re Not Demons

Let’s get the obvious out of the way; 99% of the time, the ghosts of children are not demons. This is a very Christian-centric belief in the paranormal that often takes over the field. I’ve only encountered a few spirits that tried to come across as a child. But even so, it’s only been maybe twice in the 20 years I’ve been investigating. Not everyone in the field believes in the idea of heaven or hell. Don’t treat these kids like they’re evil entities trying to take your soul.

Get on Their Level

If you know the location is reported to be haunted by a small child, avoid standing if you can. Try to sit in a chair, or even on the floor, and get on the child’s level to communicate. Even for living children, getting on their level to communicate and talk to them is a more effective way to gain their trust so the child doesn’t feel intimidated by you. Standing over a child and asking questions could very well make them feel nervous around you and possibly remind them of someone who wasn’t kind to them when they were alive.

Be Mindful of the Tone of Your Voice

Some kids appreciate big, boisterous voices. If you’re a parent or a teacher, that voice may work in your favor in a positive manner. But sometimes, you may run into a child spirit that has been traumatized by an adult, and a loud voice may very well upset them and inhibit them from communicating. When I first initiate communication, I try to have a more neutral tone and volume to my voice in the beginning. This gives me the opportunity to gauge the comfort level of the child spirit and see how much they’re willing to communicate, their personality, and how outgoing they are.

Know How to Talk to Different Age Groups

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone on an investigation that’s reported to be haunted by a small child, and then it’s apparent that the young person we’re talking to is a pre-teen or older. Have an understanding of communication styles of different age groups. You don’t want to talk to a 10-year old the same way you would talk to a 5-year old. One can speculate that even in the afterlife, that spirit will reflect their age and development stage they were in upon passing.

Keep an Open Mind

The paranormal investigation practice isn’t an exact science, and we have a long way to go. This means people can make assumptions and mistakes sometimes. The way that folklore, myths, and legends can grow and evolve can quickly change the origin story for many spirits. This means that the 5-year old girl that haunts the old barn may not actually be a 5-year old girl, but instead, a 13-year old boy. Or, even an old man! Keep an open mind and don’t pigeonhole yourself into insisting on communicating with a spirit that may or may not be there.

Use Trigger Objects

If you know the location is haunted by children, bring trigger objects! This means toys, dolls, puzzles, music, whatever gets someone engaged. When trying to engage with children, people will bring different activities to stimulate that child’s mind. Just talking to people with nothing to entertain them could get bored rather quickly. Just as living children can have short attention spans, one can theorize that this is still the case in the afterlife. Depending on what you believe when it comes to evolving spirits long-term, it never hurts to try different trigger objects.

Talk About Things They Enjoy

This can apply to teenagers and adults as well. You can never go wrong talking about things that a spirit enjoys, whether it was something they enjoyed while alive, or still enjoying during their afterlife. Just like the trigger objects, talking about things like foods, their favorite colors, books, music, and depending on time period; movies and television.

Avoid Talking About Traumatic Topics

Children can sense blood in the water if you’re not comfortable talking to them, or if you have something to hide. It’s like they have that extra sense. So, when a child spirit is comfortable communicating with me, I treasure that moment and try to make the interaction as positive as I can. Talking about trauma for the sake of sparking communication isn’t okay. When you think about the living, majority of society doesn’t candidly talk to a child about their trauma, their abuser, etc. when they first meet them. Even experts in pediatric psychiatry will engage in different modes of play and other engagement methods before diving straight into trauma. As paranormal investigators, we are not that spirit’s psychologist, counselor, etc. and when we bring up a child’s abuser and just yelling things in empty rooms, it causes more harm than good. Now, if they volunteer the information themselves, it means that you’ve established enough trust with them to talk about more difficult topics.

They’re Not There to Perform

While spirit communication can be both disturbing and exciting, especially for content creation, these spirits are not there to perform for us. They’re not there to help us create spooky content. They are existing in their (hopefully) happy afterlife and doing their thing. Every time I encounter (what I believe is) spirit communication, I feel exceptionally honored. I feel even more special when it’s a child.

Final Thoughts

None of these tips are a guarantee that you will have the chance to talk with ghost children, or even that they’ll be interested in talking to you. But in a field where trauma-based ghost hunting is becoming the norm and now very popular, this is an alternative approach to paranormal investigations that doesn’t cause additional harm. At the end of the day, ghost hunting and paranormal investigating is talking to people, or at the very least, talking with something we believe is conscious and intelligent. Just as we expect spirits to engage with us respectfully, we should do the same when we enter these buildings and try to talk to those inhabiting it. If you have the chance to engage with the spirit of a child, take that experience as a gift and have a positive and meaningful interaction.

Happy investigating!